Saturday, August 23, 2014

I need the smell of summer, I need its noises in my ears

I just wrote a huge rant, and I am not even going to post it. I'm going to post another, more vauge rant instead. If it comes off as preachy, that's because it is. I'm preaching what you all already know to be true. I'm just putting it down in one place to reiterate it to the interwebz. People need to hear it as often as possible, especially right now.

The bottom line is that life is too short to be anything but happy.

If you are unhappy at your job, quit. I mean, please think about it before you go making rash decisions, but a well-thought-out risk can change your life. Start planning now and do everything you can to break in to the job that WILL make you happy. You spend the majority of your waking hours at work, so you sure as hell better enjoy what you do.

And if you have a higher degree and feel like being a stay-at-home mom, or a nanny, or a makeup artist, or a plumber, GO FOR IT. You are not wasting your education. That knowledge will always be with you, and you will use much of what you learned throughout your life, no matter what you choose to do. Screw what people say. Life is too short to care. If people are really going to judge you for doing something that makes you happy, they need to reevaluate their own lives.

On that note, can everyone stop being rude to each other? Be a good friend to your friends. Life changes. People grow up, move away, have babies, get married, travel the world. These experiences change people. You may not always be in the same place in life as your friends, and you might not have the most in common at times, but that doesn't give you an excuse to be a dick. Your friends are still your friends, and just like any relationship, friendships take work to last. Remember where you came from. Be empathetic. Ask them questions about their experiences. Show some interest in their lives. Care about them. Support them. This goes for family, too.

People just need to stop being so cruel to each other. Stop judging people. Stop alienating people. Stop being mean. You only live once. You will meet so many people throughout the course of your life. You may clash with some, and that's okay. But if someone has different beliefs that clash with yours, do you need to be judgmental? There is a difference between having intelligent debate and being rudely judgmental. Just do what makes you happy and let other people do the same (we're not talking drugs and prostitution here, people. You know what I mean). And if someone has done nothing wrong to you or your loved ones, and you just happen to think the person is weird, or you get annoyed by him, keep your mouth shut please. That doesn't mean talk about him behind his back. That means learn to process your feelings in your head and let it go; vent to a trusted best friend, significant other, or therapist; or keep your distance from that person if you think you can't control yourself. How does it benefit you, or anyone else, to be mean?

It doesn't. It won't make you happy. It will fill you with animosity and bad vibes. You will not feel better by making someone else feel bad. At least not in the long run, and that's what matters.

I have a wedding less than two weeks away now. Most of the planning is done. I am excited to see how all the flowers and decorations look when they are put together. I am still super pumped to eat, drink, and be merry. But most recently, I have started to become excited about the actual ceremony, and what it means that so many of our friends and family will be there for it.

This is a sign that good still exists in the world. Two people, declaring to be there for each other through good times and bad, supported by the love of friends and family.

That is how the world should be for everyone. Help make it that kind of place.

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