Saturday, August 23, 2014

I need the smell of summer, I need its noises in my ears

I just wrote a huge rant, and I am not even going to post it. I'm going to post another, more vauge rant instead. If it comes off as preachy, that's because it is. I'm preaching what you all already know to be true. I'm just putting it down in one place to reiterate it to the interwebz. People need to hear it as often as possible, especially right now.

The bottom line is that life is too short to be anything but happy.

If you are unhappy at your job, quit. I mean, please think about it before you go making rash decisions, but a well-thought-out risk can change your life. Start planning now and do everything you can to break in to the job that WILL make you happy. You spend the majority of your waking hours at work, so you sure as hell better enjoy what you do.

And if you have a higher degree and feel like being a stay-at-home mom, or a nanny, or a makeup artist, or a plumber, GO FOR IT. You are not wasting your education. That knowledge will always be with you, and you will use much of what you learned throughout your life, no matter what you choose to do. Screw what people say. Life is too short to care. If people are really going to judge you for doing something that makes you happy, they need to reevaluate their own lives.

On that note, can everyone stop being rude to each other? Be a good friend to your friends. Life changes. People grow up, move away, have babies, get married, travel the world. These experiences change people. You may not always be in the same place in life as your friends, and you might not have the most in common at times, but that doesn't give you an excuse to be a dick. Your friends are still your friends, and just like any relationship, friendships take work to last. Remember where you came from. Be empathetic. Ask them questions about their experiences. Show some interest in their lives. Care about them. Support them. This goes for family, too.

People just need to stop being so cruel to each other. Stop judging people. Stop alienating people. Stop being mean. You only live once. You will meet so many people throughout the course of your life. You may clash with some, and that's okay. But if someone has different beliefs that clash with yours, do you need to be judgmental? There is a difference between having intelligent debate and being rudely judgmental. Just do what makes you happy and let other people do the same (we're not talking drugs and prostitution here, people. You know what I mean). And if someone has done nothing wrong to you or your loved ones, and you just happen to think the person is weird, or you get annoyed by him, keep your mouth shut please. That doesn't mean talk about him behind his back. That means learn to process your feelings in your head and let it go; vent to a trusted best friend, significant other, or therapist; or keep your distance from that person if you think you can't control yourself. How does it benefit you, or anyone else, to be mean?

It doesn't. It won't make you happy. It will fill you with animosity and bad vibes. You will not feel better by making someone else feel bad. At least not in the long run, and that's what matters.

I have a wedding less than two weeks away now. Most of the planning is done. I am excited to see how all the flowers and decorations look when they are put together. I am still super pumped to eat, drink, and be merry. But most recently, I have started to become excited about the actual ceremony, and what it means that so many of our friends and family will be there for it.

This is a sign that good still exists in the world. Two people, declaring to be there for each other through good times and bad, supported by the love of friends and family.

That is how the world should be for everyone. Help make it that kind of place.

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

EAT YOUR TACOS, TUNA: A Bachelorette Weekend Tale

Eric and I got to spend an extra week in the Jerz with our friends and family. It was for a sad reason, but we were happy to be able to be with family and friends at that time. So happy that we had a pretty hard time being okay with coming back to Florida. But, as everyone was telling me, I only had two days after I got back until I had visitors arriving for my Bachelorette Weekend in West Palm.

Eric and I got in Monday night. On Tuesday, we opened all of the packages that people had sent here for my bridal shower. Holy crap, there were a LOT of packages. We received so many amazing gifts, so thank you, everyone! Wednesday, Kristin and Chloe came over to help me clean up and organize my place for visitors. Kristin did a lot. Chloe just sat in her little rocker the whole time, pffft that lazy baby! :P

Lauren Ann got in on Wednesday night. We went to Ale House with Ben and Kristin and Chloe, had some food and drinks, talked like old times. Only now we all have decent significant others and a baby sitting there with us. Kristin, Lauren, and I hadn't all been together since high school. High school feels like a different life. I was a completely different person. But at the same time, it feels like no time has passed.

Thursday through Sunday was spent at a rental house, complete with a patio and pool in the back yard. Kristin, Katie, Lauren, Linny, Sunny, Katherine, Nicole, Helen, Erica, Erin, and Becca were ALL there. I'd go in to all the details, but I'm pretty sure you can just go to Facebook and Instagram #deegslasthurrah and see everything documented. The weekend generally consisted of lots of drinks, pool time, good food, dancing, bull riding, and karaoke.

The worst part of the weekend: I had to wear a pink tutu and a crown with Jordan almonds glued across the front.

The best part of the weekend: We all had matching black "Team Bride" shirts, complete with skulls on the front. MY friends wore SKULLS, in public, for ME. It was hilarious. I feel truly loved.

The real best part of the weekend: Friends from all different parts of my life were in the same place, at the same time, getting along with each other, talking like old friends, acting crazy together. People came to visit me from Jersey, Delaware, Maryland, DC, and Florida. That's pretty impressive. It was surreal to see Lauren and Kristin and Linny together again, the UD girls and Kristin finally meeting the people they've heard so much about from my college life and my Florida life, and Erin, my newest girl fam, being so loved that she was named an honorary Minty.

I stepped back a few times just to look around and take in the mental image of people from completely different parts of my life, all being friends together. Whoa. It was intense, guys. I can't wait until the wedding, when the other 200 friends and family are added in to the mix. I feel really, really loved and happy.

And NOW: IT'S CRUNCH TIIIIIIIME! Getting all the finishing touches put together, because in exactly one month, it's party time.

Life is crazy.